A
NEW DAY TO START OVER
I started out my day yesterday by accidentally
knocking over the glass French Press full of hot coffee. I was barefoot. The carafe cut me and the coffee burnt me. Yesterday was not a good day.
My
foot hurt and reminded me constantly how I was:
careless, clumsy, inattentive, silly…. All kinds of very negative
thoughts filled my head. To top it off I had to shell out the money for a new
pot or go without coffee!
As
it turns out, the kitchen store sells a variety of replacement glass carafes… I
couldn’t find the model I needed, but was reassured by the fact that obviously other people had bad days that started
out with pots of coffee, cuts and burns.
“The Chinese use two
brush strokes to write the word “crisis.” One brush stroke stands for danger;
the other for opportunity.” – Richard Nixon
Literally,
I spent the entire day not considering
that other people might have faced a similar fate and, most likely, felt
much the same as I did. Did this
realization make my pain or embarrassment go away? No.
But,
knowing that other people had faced a similar fate and also had to find a way
to deal with it brought me some comfort. More, it made me feel a little more connected
and grounded.
One
of the first things I try to do with new clients is to help them understand what they are feeling is normal. Not to take away from the fact that they are [fill
in the negative feeling here], but to understand that they are not alone. They are connected.
STARTING
OVER IS HARD
Depending
on your mindset, facing a new day to start over might be a good OR a bad thing….For
me it is almost always good; my glass is almost always half full. But, I have had some hard times where it wasn't so easy to see the glass, even.
I
believed there was a glass and understood that some people saw that is was half
full and others half empty. Sometimes I couldn't see the glass
because I was crying too hard. Other
times, I turned my head.
If you are unemployed it may be very difficult for you
to be positive right now. You may be hanging onto your negative view out
of habit or it might be a lifelong tendency.
Either way, you will have more success in your job search if you can
take the positive view.
The choice is yours. You
get to choose, every day, whether be negative or positive. You get to choose, every day, what to do with
what you do have. You get to choose, every day, how to get what you want. Every day.
How
will you start your new day?
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